This month I want to challenge us in another way. A way that will work our hearts and our minds. Afterall, one of the biggest things I have learned over the past few years is that feelings and fitness go hand in hand! Keep up with your healthy and balanced eating, exercising your body and getting to know it better and better but if you can really focus on these four things this month I feel strongly that it will help you get mentally strong and stay in control…
I firmly believe you can manage anything with your mind and that is exactly what I need to do today and everyday. A strong mind that knows what it has been through and that can reflect and make sense of those feelings can do anything!
Something awesome happened the other morning when I wrote these four words down in my journal, I filled the entire page up in no time! I had so many thoughts in my heart and in my mind that needed to get out. They came out like a flood! I needed to put them somewhere! So, I put them in these buckets and it really helped!!! I want you to start a journal and every morning or night, or a few times per week, think about what you need to put in these buckets. You don’t have to tell anyone what they are. They are just for you. I will share some examples of mine though with you. If you do this you must be 100% honest with yourself. It feels so good to get the truth out and it will only make you a stronger, less stressed and more present person every single time you do it. Getting to know yourself better is the best!
Gratitude: name 3 things everyday you are thankful for-big or little, doesn’t matter! What are you happy about in your life? Who do you love? Who loves you today? Who can you help? How can you make a difference? What can you do? What makes you happy? For me one of them is most definitely cooking…that is my favorite hobby above all else so I make sure I am able to do this often!
Attitude: write down the ways you are acting. Are you being patient, kind, positive to yourself and others? If not then write down the truth and work on turning those negative behaviors around. It’s a gentle reminder to check your attitude and adjust accordingly daily.
Forgiveness: this is a huge one. Who do you need to forgive? Is it maybe yourself? Guilt has really been a driving factor as to why I came to this conclusion that I needed to do something to uncover the truth and move on. We must forgive others and mostly we all feel guilty for something in our past maybe…for me it’s divorce and Max, my son, having to be split up and shared. I carry a ton of guilt around because of that all day, every single day for over 5 years now. It’s so heavy! If I worry about Max and his feelings and want to place blame I have to put that in my forgiveness bucket and help him from this point, there is no turning back. Some things are meant to be for sure but they are also hard to forgive and accept and that’s okay as we just need to work through them. Some of us have a past full of mistakes or what I like to now call experiments. There was a time in my life not even that long ago where I made one bad decision after another for almost 2 years and let myself be majorly taken advantage of. I have grown so much since then because I worked at it. I have to let the guilt go and forgive myself. It’s okay. There are no mistakes in life. We do things based on who we are at the time and then hopefully evolve and get closer to our ultimate happy truth. I am there now more than I have ever been because I am aware of my feelings and I process them. This is one way you can start to do that.
Acceptance: this is an even bigger one!! Ahhh, so many things to accept. For me it’s body image/controlling and obsessing over what I am eating. I honestly don’t even know what I truly look like because my view of myself is so blurry from years of my body changing. All the way back from when I was little and in grade school to present day. Feeling perfect, looking perfect, controlling what I eat, what Max eats and stopping myself from getting upset if things are not going perfect according to the “supposed to” ideas out there. From everything on how to raise a child, your love relationship, what we “should all be doing” in every aspect of life. I am really over that actually. Do what works for you and your family. We are all unique! Accept who you are now and who you were then, no matter what your situation is, accept it and chose to be happy and make the most of it now.
I really hope this month of keeping this bucket journal helps you uncover some hidden truths about yourself and maybe what you are covering up or holding onto. Visualize the buckets at different times of the day or when you need them>>>>put your thoughts into them. In the past week I have visualized these buckets around me and if something is bothering me in my mind I drop it into the appropriate bucket. It’s working! Just try forgiving and accepting yourself and others while living in gratitude with an awesome attitude! That is my goal and I really hope this helps you too!! Wishing you the best always!! xo-Adrienne
Remember, I am just a human sharing my thoughts and ideas with you….not technically qualified to offer such advice 😉