4 months until Married!

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Wedding plans are set and in 4 months we will get married! I am writing this post to tell you exactly what I am going to do to get ready for this wedding! I know what you are thinking or what you may have done in the past….cardio for hours, fasted, cleansed, juiced, boot camped….drove yourself nuts trying to change magically into someone that you really aren’t! That is the opposite of what I want to do. All I want to do is marry Tim and feel great that day AND MORE IMPORTANTLY…for the rest of our lives together! So why would I punish myself for weeks or months leading up to it and then immediately go back to who I was when he actually asked me to marry him?

I AM NOT GOING TO DO ANY OF THAT!!!

What I am going to do is:

1.Love myself as is (see picture above) in all ways! Self care being the focus here….to help this along I am going to ensure I get enough sleep. Turn off the TV, the phone etc. Sleep is so important for your body to recover! It’s winter so it’s the perfect time to hibernate anyway!

2. Keep challenging my body by working out mindfully-increasing weight/variety of movements and spiking my heart rate with fat burning intervals. 3 to 4 times a week for 20 to 45 min each time. My goal (because goals are good) is to work on my push ups-doing them daily or every other day to build up the number I can do in a row.

3. Keep eating mindfully-planning meals ahead of time 80% of the time so that I don’t skip meals or make non-nutritious choices. My goal here is to drink less alcohol because I know for a fact that alcohol kills your ability to keep muscle and I want as much muscle tone as possible.

Here are some ideas I came up with that are almost too easy not to do weekly: And you don’t have to do them on Sundays. You can do them whenever it works for you. On the spot-but make sure you have the ingredients, Every few days even…there are no rules!

Okay, one rule-eat balanced:protein (tuna, chicken, turkey), carbs (potatoes, rice, oats) and good fats (nuts, oils, avocados) and lots of veggies and fruits and water EVERYDAY ūüôā

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This is a tuna salad I made today because I was starving and needed something quick!

One 5 oz can tuna

2 heaping tbsp plain Greek Yogurt

Some dried cranberries, sliced almonds, diced apples, lemon juice, salt & pepper and some dried parsley

Great choices can be made even on the spot if you stock up on the good stuff!

So, Who is with me? Who wants to “get ready to get married” with me??

XO, A

You-are-enough

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Super Inspired 2016

Oh man! I am rocking it out in 2016 so far! I know it’s only the 12th but I already feel like I have come a long way since last year! Last year was a crazy year for me, such highs and such lows and I experienced them all off of the pill which-wow-I had no idea what that would be like. Let me explain….I stopped the birth control pill towards the end of 2014 and immediately I felt like my head was more clear but as you know I instantly gained 13 lbs in that first month. I was shocked and then sad and started to panic almost every single darn day. Why did this happen, what am I doing wrong to cause this? Was it the fact that my hormones were changing because I was approaching 35? Did I have two too many IPA’s with Tim-you can’t blame others ūüėČ Why do I feel gross? Why am I even a personal trainer when all of 2015 I kept gaining weight rapidly….what business do I even have doing this when my body is completely out of control!

All year I went wallowing/beating myself up and and trying to figure out what was wrong with me. For an entire year-wasted time-wasted happiness-wasted interactions with loved ones. And being off the pill I experienced every move my body was going through ALL month long-it was freeing and also awful almost every single day. The symptoms you hear about are real and I had them ALL! I had been on the pill for so long I had no idea what it actually was fully like to experience ALL OF THAT. The reason I went off it truly was because I was being exposed to so many articles telling me that I “shouldn’t be on it”. What I have come to realize because my gut was literally telling me, was that my body needed those hormones, my body really really needed those pills and there is nothing wrong with that! THAT IS WHAT WORKS BEST FOR ME. I am glad I stopped it because I learned so many lessons from it. Everything is an experience with lessons attached to it.

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Which brings me to my next lesson-ah, so many lessons last year…..YOU MUST DO WHAT WORKS BEST FOR YOU. Social media has exposed us to so much “should and shouldn’t” that it makes me want to just go into hiding. Should I brush my teeth with coconut oil? Should I say “I love you” to my son more or less than 5 times a ¬†day? Should I eat bread? Ohhh myyyy goshhhh!! Make it stop! Here is what I learned: No I shouldn’t use coconut oil in MY mouth because it actually causes a rash on MY face and I should say I love you so many times to Max because it makes him feel loved and YES, 100% yes I SHOULD EAT BREAD!! Gah.

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Next lesson: WHEN I HELP PEOPLE I ALSO HELP MYSELF. So far this year I have 3 steady in home clients and have written 3 at home workout plans for 3 different people. I also help people in group fitness class get stronger, healthier and happier if only for 45 min 2 times a week. But guess what? All of that actually helps me stay focused and want to get better and do better. So please, I urge you to find your passion and help others-it’s a win/win!

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My 2016 Motto: BE ENJOYABLE-life is short and a lot can happen in a short time. You must be able to find joy and then actually be enjoyable!! Life is too short! My brother was here and then like that he is up in Heaven (cheering on the Steelers right now for sure!). I didn’t get to say good bye or I love you no matter crazy you drive me because just like that it was his time to go. BUT I am not one to live with regrets. So I keep moving forward! This year I will marry by best friend (for real, he is) and I will cherish every moment I have with my son. Remembering always that life is too short to spend half of it worrying about how I don’t have him half of the time. 2015 was just too much and I am still possessing it-so many good and unexpected things happened! Max got a surprise baby brother, we went to Disney, Max started 1st grade, I got a new car, heck I even got my first iPhone, I went on a crazy 3 state trip and got engaged to Tim! Sometimes I think if I blink I will just wake up and it will have been a dream. It all happened so fast and I promise to not take it for granted. The holidays came and then they went and what I am left with is 2016, NOW, ¬†a year to be super inspired and another chance to be awesome!

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I am back on the pill and already I feel tremendously better in just one week. It may not be the actually pill itself but the idea that I paid attention to MY body and did what was best for ME. I am in control. I love the start of a new year and all that comes with it. I do not feel the absolute need to change. I feel the complete want to change and just BE ENJOYABLE. I have learned so many valuable lessons in the past few years because I became aware and sought out those messages and lessons. I am an Aries and by nature I love ideas/taking chances-some are good and some are bad but one thing is for sure I was born to create and that is what I will keep doing for myself and for others. I am naturally curious and full of all kinds of wonderment and I hope I can share a little bit of that with you! My blog is simply about my ideas and a way for me to share them with you. I am not here to tell YOU what you should and shouldn’t do. I have knowledge and a healthy perspective into the fitness world. I have found a way to balance this thing we call life and that is what I want to share with you. I am always learning and always changing and that my friends is a very good thing! I hope the same for all of you reading this!

Cheers to this year, this day and this moment!

xoxo

Adrienne

 

 

 

 

Project: Admire & Inspire

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Hello all! I am excited about this post! 

I want us all to love one another, especially us ladies! I am challenging you to pick 5 awesome women in your life and show them some admiration and hopefully inspire them to think more of themselves! I want you to flatter them and tell them just what it is that makes them special to you and the rest of the world. Tell them what you admire about them! Lift them up. 

We are all special and we all have something to offer. Some women have helped us personally just by being themselves without even realizing it. Tell them that! There are many ladies in my life looking back whose traits I have admired but in some cases were jealous of. Jealousy is not going to get us their lives. Being jealous is not who we were meant to be. We should be celebrating each other and looking within at ourselves and our own sparkle. 

You cannot create a life based off of wishing you had someone else’s. You have to create your own unique path and life story. Pick ladies that you know may need to hear it and also pick some who you think don’t. You never know who is struggling with self-esteem.

My hope with this is that:

——–>it forces you not to compare your body or life to another woman’s

——–>to celebrate each other and our awesome personalities and beauty

———>to make someone’s day who wasn’t expecting to hear such kind words about themselves

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I hope you enjoy this and have fun! Remember complimenting and giving to others is only going to make you feel better too! 

xoxo, 

Adrienne

The 12th

The 12th of the month is when my brother died. The 12th of the month was when my phone rang at 7 am and immediately I knew something was wrong. It was my dad on the other end and it was bad.

That was in April and now it is almost September. It has been almost 5 months. What I want to do (because I don’t want this post to be about the details, sadness and feelings) is remember my brother Tony and challenge myself on or around the 12th of the month by running/walking 12 miles in memory of my brother or in symbolism-whatever you want to call that.

I feel like I will always feel this feeling on the 12th of every single month. I hope it fades and gets easier but for now I want to do this one thing that will push me and give me something to focus on that will make me stronger in mind, body and spirit.

I really appreciate my body and I want to do as much as I can to take care of it and all I really want for others is just that. I want people, my family, friends, strangers….to just take care of themselves and their bodies. To use their bodies for good so that their bodies can treat them good back.

This is my goal at least for the next 3 months on the 12th:

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To honor and remember my brother by focusing on my body and pushing it further than usual. I will run/walk 12 miles on the 12th. There will be no medals and probably no one cheering me on but I will prevail mentally and prove to myself once again that I am strong.

I went for a run this morning-5 miles and have done a few 2 to 3 miles a couple of times a week for the past month. I feel confident that I can do it but it will be challenging.

Some of my thoughts while I ran today were:

We must honor our bodies

We must do the hard things

We must not waste the life we are given

We must tell our loved ones we love them and not judge them because before you know it they can be gone.

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My younger brother Alex is dedicating all of his lifts to our brother and I am running on the 12th of the month for our brother. Neither of these things will bring him back but it will keep pushing us further individually mentally & physically.

I hope this inspires you to maybe honor and respect your bodies a little bit more, to push yourself a little bit more, to live a little bit more.

xoxoxo

Adrienne

We are LOVE

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What I have always known about myself ¬†is that I love love! From when I was just a little girl I always sought out love. I wanted books about love and calendars, pens, notebooks…anything! I was never sure and still might not be about a lot of things but I am sure that I have always loved love.

As I grew up and went through school, started dating and eventually got married love was no longer in my view. I don’t know what happened but I got very lost and what I realize now is that I was not focused on love. This does not mean that I wasn’t loving or that I was a mean person it just means that I didn’t focus on it like I did then and like I do now. When I stopped focusing on Love I got lost in life. When I married a person who doesn’t believe in anything I got even more lost. I didn’t realize how important it was going to be to the rest of my life how important it was to believe in something. For my son’s sake I didn’t plan that one out very well. Of course clueless at the time and I am not blaming myself but I did somehow marry someone and have a child with someone who doesn’t believe in anything who eventually cheated on me and divorced me. Without belief in anything and without those values and morals how did I expect anything to last? I wasn’t awake then but I am awake now.

Love now is mostly what I think about. Loving things, books, ideas, sweating, learning, loving myself, loving my life and family, loving strangers, loving people’s differences. Just Love and Loving everything!

Love is what I pray to and for. Love is all that matters. When I put my thoughts out there I am not sure if they are going to the Universe or to God or to the moon, the stars….I don’t know but what I do know is that they are loving thoughts and I believe that Love will find a way and Love will guide me in the right direction.

When I was in my 20’s I wasn’t sure what or who I believed in. Was it God, was it nothing, was there nothing or no one to believe in? ¬†And then slowly and gradually I realized that it was Love that I believed in and always had. I had gotten away from it because I wasn’t surrounded by it and I stopped thinking about it. I still have some of those things I had from when I was younger. There is a reason I kept them because I must have always known that Love was what I was! Below is a book I have had since¬†I was 12 years old…its filled with belief, love, hopes and dreams.

 

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flavia book

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Why so AWESOME? Why not?

Hi guys! I bet the question of why my blog is called what it is called has crossed¬†your mind. I hope that if you are following my blog or my Facebook page you get me and know this already but just in case you didn’t I thought I would share.

When I started this blog I was going through a real crazy time in my life. I was divorced out of a very bad situation with a young child and suddenly then found myself in an abusive relationship with my then boyfriend. It was an extremely hard time in which I grew and learned a lot. When I started to gain strength and find my passion for fitness and training others I wanted to share that love and passion. I gained my self-confidence, something that I had been missing for a long time, so the word AWESOME came to mind a lot.  The word AWESOME makes me smile and it goes nicely with my A name of Adrienne. It is as simple as that. The word AWESOME is contagious. The word alone gave me the power I needed to pick myself back up and live.

I want to lead my friends, family and clients through example. I want them to call themselves AWESOME out loud like me.  It feels good. It is loving and I believe we should be a little more loving towards ourselves.

I think most of you that know me know that it isn’t me being boastful or conceited. It is just me being me. Fun, energetic, positive and happy!!

Awesome like Adrienne-its hard to say without smiling.

I aim to inspire not boast. I aim to share food ideas, fitness tips, workouts, knowledge, love, happiness, confidence and awesomeness.

My goal is to be awesome in all that I do and hope its yours too!

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Average Like Adrienne?

Hello!! Tonight I¬†really want to¬†write from my heart as I feel this is something all men and women need to hear…..

Last week I somehow got into a Facebook¬†conversation with someone whom I have never met in person about me, my page, my training, career, food etc. He said that I was “Average and not exactly Miss Fitness looking” so he was wanting me to “kick up my game a notch so that I would actually be inspiring, look the part, do the work and then post pictures of smoothies”.

Well, this is how I feel about that….First, no tears were shed over being called “Average” as I know that what he was comparing me to was this:Amanda Latona

 

Hannah Davis for Fitness Magazine September 2013 CoverIn my mind this is his picture of “perfect’ which then makes me “average”.

I explained to him that I have different goals. My goals include eating healthy foods, moving my body in all different ways (weights, cardio, whatever) life balance, happiness, being a good mom, daughter, girlfriend, sister, friend and overall good person. I like to cook, I like to be creative, I like to have fun and I like to share that information with anyone that it might help in the tiniest of ways. My goals are different from those of these women. My goals do not include a # on the scale or a certain % of body fat.

I thought about it some more and thought if she is perfect and I am average then I actually think average is pretty darn awesome! I live a healthy life full of balance, trying new things, helping others, not worrying about living up to a standard of girls on magazine covers, learning to love and appreciate my body and encouraging others to build muscle because it makes you happier,¬†healthier &¬†stronger both physically and mentally! My job is¬†to be a¬†personal trainer. My job isn’t to look perfect or be the strongest or leanest or anything”est”. My job is to help people, encourage people, teach them about exercise and food and how they can change their body. My job is to support, inspire¬†and make it fun!

If your goal is to compete or look that way then I have NO Problem with it but there is another set of woman who are trying hard just to lose weight, maintain their fitness, gain mental strength, find happiness, balance, love, direction, inspiration and peace. I am interested in that and if being good at ALL of those things makes me “Average” then I am all about it!! I am a regular/normal gal¬†and I do not need to be anything but that. I chose everyday to be happy & awesome, to do little extraordinary things that may or may not reflect¬†in a picture of me.

What really makes me sad though is thinking about women everywhere that are thinking they have to live up to this perfect woman standard. Guess what?! No matter how hard I try….I will never be taller than 5′.2″, I will always have¬†a booty, a smaller chest, a tremendous get out of bed and look fabulous head of hair,¬† sparkly hazel¬†eyes, a great attitude, love for all and an inspiring full of energy¬†spirit! I like that! I am happy with that! I like being perfectly “average”! I am not insulted or angry with this conversation we had (in fact this subject matter has been on my mind for a long time)¬†but I would like to use it to show an example of¬†what it is like to be human¬†and how¬†we are all¬†different. It is¬†ok to¬†look and feel¬†different and no one should ever be compared to anyone else. We are human therefore we are unique! We all have something¬†to offer. We all have a different point of view and they are all right because they are ours and we believe in them!

I want women to realize that there are way more important things in the world that matter! It is not about what you look like. Being happy, your mental state of mind,¬†is a goal-a broad one yes, but in my eyes the most important! No one should ever tell you , “why can’t you be more like her?” So my advice, as a personal trainer, is get happy by¬†getting fit and healthy, start to move your body and eat real food and what you look like will be Awesome and if you are lucky maybe even “Average”!!!

This is me and I am awesome!

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You should be telling yourself the same thing every single day no matter where you are on your fitness journey &¬†no matter what your story is!! What would your “cover” say???

xoxo-A

 

Heartbreak & Hallelujah!

Wow-I have had a major¬†revelation! I used to want to write about “how dare you do this to me” but today I feel I am exactly where I am supposed to be no matter how I got here. I have an amazing child and an amazing boyfriend. Period. I have those people in my life right now. My story before was that¬†I had a crappy ex-husband and my son half the time because my husband¬†“divorced” us. Here¬†is a better story-¬†NOW I have a whole new life and¬†a whole new outlook on my past. I still share custody of my son with his dad but I am able to see past the “have not” and only focus on the “have” part of that “50/50” agreement. 50/50, doesn’t that sound awful? Splitting a child in half-are you kidding me? But I can look at it¬†half empty or half FULL. I chose FULL. I always have to choose FULL or else I will not function and I will not progress as a mom and woman.

This, 50/50 talk by far, was the hardest part of getting divorced for me. The pain you feel when someone you truly love and who truly loves you back is sad (a sad cute as heck four year¬†old)-well now that is REAL heartbreak. Seeing your son cry his eyes out for you when he knows he isn’t going to see you is true heartbreak. Your husband leaving you for another¬†girl is a minor set back and not worth your heart breaking but your child, your baby, that is tough.¬†I now prepare myself and him with books like The Invisible String-which tells a story of¬†two twins whose mom tells them about the “invisible string” and that “no one is ever alone” and they can “pull on the string anywhere at anytime and she will feel it”. He tells me he will do this when he misses me or is thinking about me. Things like that bring us both comfort. Tough situations make you stronger. Lifting weights make you stronger. I¬†feel mentally strong¬†when lifting weights. I find physical and mental¬†strength in everyday life as a result of¬†lifting weights.¬†I am a stronger person because of my past and if that alone is the reason all of this happened then I accept that and use it to learn and grow. All other explanations are negative and not helpful.

Because of things like meditation, exercise,¬†deep breathing and focusing on the NOW I am able to better mentally¬†prepare for the breaking that occurs in mine and my son’s heart every other Monday morning and every other Friday morning. This heartbreak¬†isn’t a one time event. Divorce and sharing a child will always be. It comes up all the time.¬†It is not an isolated event that I can just say, “oh well, that happened and that sucked ” and be done with it. ¬†Week after week, there it is again and is ALWAYS a challenge. I have feelings.¬†My son¬†has feelings and I tell him to express them and I allow myself to express mine. It is ok to be emotional-we¬†LOVE each other and we go days without seeing each other! We LOVE hard too which makes leaving one another that much more painful. So, guess what…. it is normal to feel sad when we part ways but NOW¬†I am able to show him that even though we are sad and don’t want to leave each other we have to be happy and we have to be strong. Two HUGELY IMPORTANT life lessons! He is four and I feel is already so strong and happy because he is forced to be (naturally because of the divorce).

Speaking of divorce, this word would drive me absolutely crazy before so I changed the definition…..what do you guys think??

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I don’t write this to spite anyone or dredge up the past but rather to remind myself that I carry all of that with me and those events and those people are part of¬†the reason I am who I am today. I don’t want to be so sad every other Monday and every other Friday (and Thursday night and Sunday night) so I have to combat it daily. There are many reasons I was “released” from that marriage and I chose to focus on that! These are the things I have found that help me:

1. Meditation or prayer daily-sometimes for a half hour in the morning while soaking in an Epsom salt bath (great for sore muscles)

2. Eating mood boosting foods:http://www.health.com/health/gallery/0,,20351257,00.html

3. Moving my body-Lifting weights/challenging myself and the releasing of endorphins!!

4. Relax and rest-you don’t have to always be doing something every min of everyday-call a time out every once in a while!

5. Live in the NOW-don’t dismiss your past because it is part of you but do not get stuck in it. Find ways to beak out and enjoy who and what you are and have NOW. This will always change everything, right there in the moment.

6. Always be POSITIVE about everything and everyone. Negativity causes stress and we do not want that!!

7. Max-my son-HE is what helps me, he is so sweet, so innocent and so full of life and love.

If you are going through anything similar just let it all go. Live in the NOW. Don’t worry because everything, no matter what, is going to be okay. Live for bettering you and your story will change for the better! Promise! Life isn’t fair or easy and bad things will always happen. Things will not go according to plan and it is how you handle those events that will make or break your life.

Make it AWESOME!!

xoxo-A

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You deserve to be treated like a Queen

I wouldn’t change my life for anything but if there was one thing as a¬†woman¬†I wish I knew when I was younger¬†it would be that “I deserved to be treated like a queen”…..I want to speak to all of the ladies, younger or older, who are in relationships, or trying to find the right guy or maybe are just in their teens hoping and dreaming about their Prince Charming….I WENT THROUGH SOME BAD TIMES TO MAKE ME WHO I AM AND TO FINALLY ATTRACT MY PRINCE. SOME WORDS OF ADVICE FROM MY HEART TO YOURS…

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A List of things a Queen deserves:

He tells and shows you he loves you unconditionally

He puts you first always

He respects you and your opinions

He lets you be you

He encourages, supports you and lifts you up

He spoils and surprises you

He kisses you goodnight and tells you that you are beautiful

He helps you reach your goals

He treats you as his equal

He laughs with you not at you

He brings you back to reality when you go a little crazy

He acts unselfishly towards you

A List of things a Queen does not deserve:

He tries to control you in any way shape or form

He tells you who you can hang out with and who you can’t

He isolates you in any way from friends and or family

He makes you feel guilty

He tells you that you are not good enough

He puts you down in any way

He yells/screams at you

He puts his hands on you in a violent way

He tells you that saying “I love you” isn’t for everyday use

He puts himself, his hobbies, his wants before yours as a couple

He tells you that “everyone flirts with their co-workers”

He tells you that you are jealous/crazy

He questions what you are doing and where you are going

He texts or calls repeatedly over and over again to track you down

He treats you like you are beneath him

I know you might be thinking who would let someone treat them like that but the reality is it happens everyday to women everywhere and until we stand up for ourselves and the strong, beautiful women that we are…. it will not change. Demand nothing less than love and respect and you will get it. You are stronger than you think!

YOU DESERVE SO MUCH BETTER AND HE IS OUT THERE-I PROMISE YOU THAT. IF YOU ARE NOT BEING TREATED WITH THE HIGHEST AMOUNT OF LOVE AND RESPECT THEN YOU ARE NOT LIVING UP TO THE QUEEN THAT YOU ARE. YOU HAVE THE POWER TO MAKE SURE YOU ARE TREATED RIGHT. DO NOT SETTLE FOR ANYTHING LESS.

XO-A